Baptisms and Godparents....Oh My...

I must gather my thoughts on this because they are really scattered in my brain.

I am getting so frustrated thinking about Morgan's baptism. I don't want to, but I can't help it.

First, I wanted to have her baptism in July. That is when Alyssa's was and it was perfect. It was nice outside, for our after party. I kinda wanted to get them baptized at around the same age. I know, sounds silly, but I do lots of silly things that don't mean anything to anyone else but me. But, the time flew by so fast and we have several activities, gatherings or whatnot, to attend to at the end of June through the end of July. So, I have settled on having her baptism in the beginning of August.

That is OK too, because we can finish getting our back yard in more presentable condition. Taking down a huge tree and building a garage really does a toll on your yard. Even if it isn't that big. It gives me more time to prepare and more time to save now that I am back at work. So, I am OK with it being pushed back a little further than I would have like it to be.

Now for the godparents...
In the catholic religion, you have to pick at least one practicing catholic that has been confirmed and is at least 16 years of age. If you have the second person as a Christian witness to stand up for your child, he or she must be practicing in the religion they belong to. (My church asks for proof of membership from another church if they don't belong to our church). I was really bummed that they really enforce that 16 years old rule, because I wanted my youngest sister (who will be 14 in August) to be the godmother. She is already confirmed and goes to church every Sunday. Gary really wanted his best friend of 26 years to be the godfather. Problem is that he hasn't had any sacraments done and obviously doesn't attend church.

I was picked to be my nieces godmother this past February. My step-brother and his fiance chose me. I thought they would be a good choice to be Morgan's godparents. Granted, they are not married, and they already have children, but they are engaged and he is my family. Now, I was never really that close to my step-brother and even now it is his fiance and myself who do any planning to get together. Lately it seems as if we make plans and they always back out of it. I had been planning each time for us to ask them to be the godparents. We were supposed to get together tomorrow and now Lisa (the soon to be SIL), said she might not be able to get together because she has to visit her grandfather for father's day. (We were supposed to hang out while the guys went golfing for father's day). So, now I am supposed to sit alone tomorrow?? Gary called me and told me that if I didn't have anyone to be with me, he would much rather not go golfing and be with his family (go Gary)!! So, I am going to call and cancel for Gary.

I'm just irritated because all I wanted was the four of us adults and the kids to get together, so we could ask them to be the godparents and I feel like we keep getting the blowoff. I don't really have anyone else to choose to be the godparents. I felt like the godfather we picked for Alyssa has already disappeared off the face of the earth at times.

I am just getting frustrated. I just wish we could pick who we really want to be the godparents, but they are not religiously qualified. I totally understand the meaning behind a godparent, but really these days, who follows that?? I think it is more of an honorary person to stand next to your child while they are baptized into the catholic religion. Sometimes I wonder why there are even godparents to begin with. I mean, the parents are ultimately the ones responsible for the catholic upbringing. So, why bring someone else into it? I am sure there are plenty of reasons, but even my godparents (who are very religious) haven't really guided me in a catholic way. They always kept contact and sent presents and stuff, but just never did any "guiding".

I hope this makes sense. I am just rambling nonsense, trying to make some sense of it to myself. I don't know if I have done that or made it worse!

Hope everyone has a good weekend. And to all my blogger friends who have stopped blogging....YOU SUCK! Just kidding, you don't suck, but I will miss reading about everyone and their families!! I guess I have to go out and try to find some new blogger friends.