I need to vent...
Yesterday when I got home from the water park with my mom and Alyssa, Gary told my mom that step-dad called. He said that my step-dad was lecturing Gary on how I should go back to work full time right now, so we can save money for when the next baby comes.
I was very irritated by this.
First of all, this is my situation and why does he need to be so concerned as to call my husband and tell him what he feels what we should do.
Second of all, I don't want to work full time. Before Gary and I decided to have kids, we wanted to make sure that I was able to be home at the least part of the time. I don't want to have to give up the extra days with Alyssa to be stuck at work. I would be miserable!!
I am thinking my own ways of what we can do to save more money. I will probably have less of my check go into our checking acct and have more of it deposited into our savings. Hopefully we will be able to adjust to that amount of money coming in and start saving some extra $$.
If I can only take 6 weeks of maternity leave, then so be it. I would love to take the entire 12 like I did Alyssa, but if I can't, then I can't. I would rather have 6 week less at home, then to work full time for the next 9 months!
I can't believe this is getting to me so badly, but it really is. Why is my step-dad so concerned? I really want to know. This is our life and we make the decisions for our family and this is what we decide. I hate when people second guess the decisions that we make. It drives me insane.
posted by Linda @ 11:35 AM
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4 Comments:
gotta love the family assvice. I'm sure he means well, but sheesh! We had to struggle when I was pregnant with Lexie because I lost my full-time job and we decided I would start being a SAHM early, LOL.
First thing to do: cut out all extras. If you have digital cable, go down to basic (or none...agh, I can't even think of that), get rid of newpaper subscriptions, cell phones (we go a pre-paid one for emergencies only), stuff like that. It's amazing how much of a difference this can make.
Well, I'm rambling on here. Let me know if you need any other ideas.
We know they mean well, but it isn't their lives to live. You know what's best for you and your family and if you can go without working full-time, great. Go for it! I think any woman who can stay at home as much as possible is so lucky.
Ditto to what Christina said. There are many things you can cut back on or cut out totally. You'll make it work.
I can relate to family butting in. My hubby's family likes to say things to the same effect and they also like to tell us how we shouldn't be spending our money. It's very irritating, but I have learned to deal with it, and ignore it because they aren't taking the hint to shut up!! lol
Tell him to shove it!
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